::VERONICA FUNK::
  • Journal
  • Portfolio
    • Extraordinary Women
    • The Grandmothers
    • Nasty Women
    • 52 WEEKS
    • Wunderland
    • Fashion Plates
    • CityScapes
    • Sacred Vessel
    • Simple Pleasures
    • Altered Books
  • Curriculum Vitae
  • Resources
  • Shop
  • Contact

Journal.

Being Introverted

4/14/2014

8 Comments

 
Picture
The view out my living room window.
Being introverted in a predominantly extraverted world can be a challenge for someone like me...not only do I become easily overwhelmed and over-stimulated, but because I am never bored alone, others can feel neglected by me.  So, in that vein I wanted to share a few things about myself, and this doesn't mean I don't love people, because I really do, but I need a lot of time and space.

1.  I really don't enjoy public events...I wish I did because there are so many opportunities that sound fun but whenever I take part, I am absolutely exhausted and anxious afterwards.

2.  I like to be home...driving tends to cause stress (even just to the city) and I don't care to go on vacations, unless I'm heading to the mountains with my family (refreshes my soul).  I would like to see more of Canada and even just to get out and visit others but I really, really like being home, in my house or walking around my town.

3.  I don't care for large groups...I enjoy a visit with a friend or two but more than that is overwhelming.  Even gallery openings, which are lovely, leave me depleted for a week or two.  Meetings can be very difficult for me...and oddly enough, I attend many.

4.  I crave silence...which seems odd since I live near one of the busiest highways and airports in the country.  It took me several years to get used to the sound.  At least our home is surrounded by trees which means many, many birds, and I do love the sounds of nature.  I don't even care for the phone to ring...unless it's my husband or our daughters.

5.  I like to work independently...I don't need to be in a work environment to get things done.  If I say I'll do it, I will.  It's easy for me to keep busy and focused, in fact, sometimes I can be too focused and let everything else slide.  But I try to see that as a strength.

So please, please don't take it as an insult if I don't call or make plans with you...it's not personal.  I just know what I need and, thankfully, my family understands that, too.  Spending several hours alone in a room or in nature means I'm energizing my soul.  At least I'm better than I was as a girl - then I couldn't barely speak with people I didn't know as I was painfully shy.  I used to feel badly about these things and tried very hard to change but I wasn't happy.  And now, I tend to believe that it is exactly these things about me that feeds my creativity and which makes it easy for me to complete a body of work.  And it doesn't feel like work at all...just fun, uplifting and enriching for me.


8 Comments
verna link
4/14/2014 04:41:40 am

Hi Veronica,

Thanks for making this blog post! I'm still working on the idea that I should get out of the house more... I also really love just being at home, in my house or basement studio, and am gradually learning to be OK with that.

:)
V

Reply
Veronica Funk link
4/14/2014 05:31:58 pm

Verna...the being okay with it seems to be an ongoing battle for me. At this age, I had hoped it would be easy already...

Reply
Just Jen link
4/14/2014 04:50:41 am

I feel for ya Veronica. It's taken many, many years for me to limit my external life. (and one of the reasons I so love the internet as I can mingle at my leisure). My husband and I compromise as he's the direct opposite, getting charged up by social engagements, rather than drained and depleted.

As you say, our world is generally understanding of extroverts needs and less generous with those of us who require solitude and silence as a means to function. But it is getting better.

Reply
Veronica Funk link
4/14/2014 05:35:22 pm

I know what you mean about the internet Jen...it's rather lovely isn't it? I'm fortunate that my husband is an even bigger introvert than I am so he's not my problem...I am, always feeling like I need to contribute more and yet, I feel like I contribute the most when I listen to my heart and stay home!

Reply
Barbara Muir link
4/14/2014 10:18:02 am

I think I'm lucky that I am both an introvert and extrovert. Like you I love being at home. I crave the quiet when the house is empty and I can read my book, or work on my own. But I do like being with groups, and travel and meeting new people. I used to be terribly shy, but teaching changed all that. The main thing is to honour yourself. Your work is beautiful.

Reply
Veronica Funk link
4/14/2014 05:37:41 pm

Barbara, I find that if I do a demo or teach I'm much better publicly as I'm happiest when I create. And I'm glad that I can't chat and be with others, I just wish it didn't drain me so. You're very lucky to have that balance. And thank you, you are so kind.

Reply
Manuela link
4/16/2014 11:21:12 pm

Veronika, I've just found your Blog and this post could be a description of me! I love your list to make people understand these feelings.
Best wishes, Manuela

Reply
Veronica Funk link
4/18/2014 09:26:54 am

Thank you very much Manuela! Best wishes to you, too.

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Picture
    Picture

    Honouring Ancestors

    Picture

     AIRdirondack Art Project

    Picture

    Placemaking

    Picture

    Alberta (above) + 
    ​Counting Crows

    Picture

    Artists' Alley

    Picture

    Art-in-Motion

    Picture
    Picture
    Picture

    Publications

    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture
    Picture

    Archives

    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    August 2012
    July 2012
    June 2012
    May 2012
    April 2012
    March 2012
    February 2012
    January 2012
    December 2011
    November 2011
    October 2011

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.
  • Journal
  • Portfolio
    • Extraordinary Women
    • The Grandmothers
    • Nasty Women
    • 52 WEEKS
    • Wunderland
    • Fashion Plates
    • CityScapes
    • Sacred Vessel
    • Simple Pleasures
    • Altered Books
  • Curriculum Vitae
  • Resources
  • Shop
  • Contact