The Grandmothers::Shirley Trotter

My mother Shirley beat to her own drum throughout her life. She was fun-loving and enjoyed time with her family and her siblings and friends.  She loved her grandchildren fiercely and lived with my sisters’ children; Justin, Allyson, Isaiah, and Brianna for much of their lives. Her close relationship with them was a cause of much joy and purpose.

It was when I was first pregnant that I became concerned that living five hours away would hinder the creation of close grandparent bonds that I had with my own grandparents who were integral to my upbringing. However, phone calls and visits created a special connection. Despite the distance she had a strong relationship with both our children; confirming that it is quality not quantity that creates a relationship.  Her youngest grandchildren, Carson and Griffin, also lit up her life. She enjoyed sharing stories about their backyard hockey rink and budding love of her favourite sport.
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In her final years she was consumed by the debilitating impacts and effects of Parkinson’s Disease that were exasperated by other health challenges. It was a difficult and emotional end to her journey. Overall, she had a good life. She was a tough woman who swore a lot, enjoyed a good glass of wine, and brought a smile to many. Her heart held many loves but it was her grandchildren that made it the most full.

~ ​Monique Stone